It may sound really cheesy but I still get so kilig whenever I come home to my husband or he comes home to me, depending on who's home first. I love making discoveries about him, no matter how small, like how he chooses what to wear in the morning or how he likes his coffee made. I love waking up next to him and have little top-of-the-morning chats... or late-night, don't-go-to-sleep-yet-talk-to-me-first conversations about anything or everything. I love our little debates over what to watch on tv or our little fantasy-filled discussions about the future. I love being with him, all the time- and whenever we part, I look forward to when I'm seeing him next, even if it's just 6 or 10 hours later.
I don't know if this is just all part of the honeymoon stage, but I soooo wish it will never end. I had some recent run-ins with people carrying marriage problems on their shoulders and wonder if they ever had these little honeymoon-stage moments of glee. And if they did, did these moments just stop, or is it due to the stress of marriage's everyday hassles or the seemingly inevitable distance created when children come along? What possibly happened to take them from where Dennis and I are now to a co-habitation filled with errands, issues and problems?
Sometimes I think marriage is like a sterling silver bracelet from Tiffany's (which incidentally was Dennis' surprise gift for me). Sterling silver may dull after some time, and this is due to everyday wear. Inevitably, dirt or libag (hehe) or residue from sweat, perfume, pollution, etc envelop the silver, causing it to dull and lose its shine. But all it needs to go back to its original pristine state is the alertness and attention you pay to it - to realize when the wear is already affecting its brilliance and shine - and the discipline (and sometimes humility) to make the effort to polish the silver, to make the true shine come out. Obviously, if you never take the time to pay attention and make the effort, there will come a time when you realize you're just wearing a piece of dirt-ridden and libag-heavy metal on your wrist, and you can no longer see the beauty of what once made your heart go pitter-patter.
May this blog post serve as a reminder to me to always remember to take the time out to "polish our silver". It's okay to deal with life's everyday problems - someone's got to- and it's okay to prioritize your children on an ongoing basis, because they need you more. But make the effort to "do the polish".. and do it often. As with cleaning anything in the house, the more regularly you do it, the easier it is to wipe off the grime :)
Monday, February 28, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Surprise!!!
Atty surprised me yesterday with this! After we had just come home from a dinner out with his future business partner (in a really chi-chi place where everything was expensively good), I immediately showered and hankered for the bed thereafter, wanting to hit the sack asap. So imagine my surprise when I took off the covers of our bed and found this underneath, waiting for me. Awww. I hit him for catching me so off-guard, but inwardly I was loving it to the max! Hahaha!
Such a sweet gesture! More than the actual gift, I loved what it's for, what it means, and the whole unveiling process it went through :) Thank you!
Sunday, February 13, 2011
dragon vs dog
OK, so this afternoon, my husband and I were told by my mother-in-law that her sister-in-law (dami namang law in this sentence) commented about our plans of having a "dragon baby", i.e. a baby born in the year of the Dragon, which starts in late-Jan 2012. Apparently, since I was born in the year of the Dog, I am "chiong" (literally means contra) to a dragon-born. Hence, it would not be preferable for me to bear a dragon baby. Not that it's dangerous or anything, but in our culture, "chiong" means, at the minimum, the two sides zero-out or cancel-out each other. If one is having good luck, the other isn't, so net-net, the total of the equation is a zero. So, if you're "chiong" to the animal sign of 2011, you're generally told to be more careful, stay close to home and avoid long trips and basically look out because you're more vulnerable to weakness.
Another "hence" in the "comment" given today: We ought to procreate SOON so as to have a rabbit-born baby, instead of crossing over the mark next year and have a, gasp, dragon-baby, just as we originally planned.
Gosh! For one, good job, mother-in-law's sister-in-law! We didn't ask you, and seriously, did you just have to share your "comments"? For another, it's not that we were dead-set on a dragon baby, because we're not. But it's just disconcerting (as a POTENTIAL MOTHER-TO-BE) to hear that my baby will be "contra" with me, seeing as how I'm the child's mother and therefore he/she would only be alive in the world due to my participation in the matter. As I told Dennis this afternoon, "I'm the child's mother. I don't know how we can be "at odds" right away. At least give the child 12 years of existence before he/she can rebel against me during the teenage years!"
TSK TSK TSK!
Hay. This culture of ours can sometimes be so overbearing. So many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts", padded by "just a suggestion" or "it won't hurt if..." Hay.
Anyway, I'm glad I have a mature husband who just smiled and said we can compromise by bumping up our "we'll start trying" period from mid-year to after-Europe, which is late April. Then we just leave it up to the child (or fate) to choose when he/she wants to be born. Does he/she want to be a rabbit? Or a dragon? Either way is fine with mommy and daddy :) Sounds good, right? I felt better, after experiencing a few seconds of ickiness after receiving the suggestion. Sounds like a plan :)
Hay. This just goes to show - Unsolicited comments never ever work out.
Another "hence" in the "comment" given today: We ought to procreate SOON so as to have a rabbit-born baby, instead of crossing over the mark next year and have a, gasp, dragon-baby, just as we originally planned.
Gosh! For one, good job, mother-in-law's sister-in-law! We didn't ask you, and seriously, did you just have to share your "comments"? For another, it's not that we were dead-set on a dragon baby, because we're not. But it's just disconcerting (as a POTENTIAL MOTHER-TO-BE) to hear that my baby will be "contra" with me, seeing as how I'm the child's mother and therefore he/she would only be alive in the world due to my participation in the matter. As I told Dennis this afternoon, "I'm the child's mother. I don't know how we can be "at odds" right away. At least give the child 12 years of existence before he/she can rebel against me during the teenage years!"
TSK TSK TSK!
Hay. This culture of ours can sometimes be so overbearing. So many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts", padded by "just a suggestion" or "it won't hurt if..." Hay.
Anyway, I'm glad I have a mature husband who just smiled and said we can compromise by bumping up our "we'll start trying" period from mid-year to after-Europe, which is late April. Then we just leave it up to the child (or fate) to choose when he/she wants to be born. Does he/she want to be a rabbit? Or a dragon? Either way is fine with mommy and daddy :) Sounds good, right? I felt better, after experiencing a few seconds of ickiness after receiving the suggestion. Sounds like a plan :)
Hay. This just goes to show - Unsolicited comments never ever work out.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Suddenly February
What happened?! All of a sudden, we're approaching mid-February! 3 working days to go before our VISA appointment at the French Embassy! Next thing we know, it'll be summertime and time to go to Europe! (yipeee!)
The other day, Atty turned to me and said "When are we having a baby?" Awwww. I can't even tell you how touching that moment was. I'm grateful to have such a mature husband, ready (and very much willing!) to be a father. I know some guys who'd rather wait (or sometimes categorically refuse to have a child), and I'm so thankful :) I told him time's flashing by so fast, before he knows it, it'll be mid-year and, before he can blink a second time, we'll be on our way to start a family.
I think this incident was spurred by the ff key things:
1. We're so settled in our home life already. Even if we've only been married for 5 months (woah, 5 months!), we've gotten so settled in our daily routine and in our little condo. We've established a life together already and, at least I think so, have made firm and stable roots upon which a small family can grow :)
2. We're ready. We're just emotionally, mentally ready to have a child. Granted, the finances can get some more improvement, but more or less we're there already. The only thing probably missing would be our long trip somewhere far, which will already materialize in 2 months. After that, we've ticked off all the boxes :)
3. Everyone's waiting. And by this, I mean everyone. His family, my family, our friends, our officemates. Everybody. Including us :P It's the next step, and everyone's excited to see us make it.
That's pretty much it. Just wanted to document Dennis' vocal request for a child, because I just found it so touching and endearing. I hope when we finally get our turn to have sleepless nights and have to endure toddler tantrums and cries, he'll remember this moment, when he asked for a baby. Wa ha ha ha ha! :p
The other day, Atty turned to me and said "When are we having a baby?" Awwww. I can't even tell you how touching that moment was. I'm grateful to have such a mature husband, ready (and very much willing!) to be a father. I know some guys who'd rather wait (or sometimes categorically refuse to have a child), and I'm so thankful :) I told him time's flashing by so fast, before he knows it, it'll be mid-year and, before he can blink a second time, we'll be on our way to start a family.
I think this incident was spurred by the ff key things:
1. We're so settled in our home life already. Even if we've only been married for 5 months (woah, 5 months!), we've gotten so settled in our daily routine and in our little condo. We've established a life together already and, at least I think so, have made firm and stable roots upon which a small family can grow :)
2. We're ready. We're just emotionally, mentally ready to have a child. Granted, the finances can get some more improvement, but more or less we're there already. The only thing probably missing would be our long trip somewhere far, which will already materialize in 2 months. After that, we've ticked off all the boxes :)
3. Everyone's waiting. And by this, I mean everyone. His family, my family, our friends, our officemates. Everybody. Including us :P It's the next step, and everyone's excited to see us make it.
That's pretty much it. Just wanted to document Dennis' vocal request for a child, because I just found it so touching and endearing. I hope when we finally get our turn to have sleepless nights and have to endure toddler tantrums and cries, he'll remember this moment, when he asked for a baby. Wa ha ha ha ha! :p
Tuesday, February 01, 2011
A Tod's bag I actually like :)
I'd probably get a different color since something this light definitely has denim-transfer problems, but I'm really really really liking this new bag from Tods. It's called the Shirt Bag due to the drawstring top.
Isn't it cute? :)
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