Some conversation topics today got me thinking about time frames. Just when you think you're in charge of your life's major milestones and the time frames on which they will happen, you get an awakening (rude or pleasant, depending on the situation) that the otherwise is what's true. A number of women I know have such trouble conceiving, to the point of desperation (i.e. IVF and other scientific ways of making a baby) that I can't help but think life is really out of our hands. We can try to schedule our life and put time frames that are convenient and/or feasible for us, but God will have His own plans and His own schedule for you. No matter how much you fight it, or want it to be different, you can't.
:s
Monday, March 28, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
The thing with being in front of a computer all day...
is you find things online that you didn't know you wanted!!!
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
housegirl saga continuation...
OK, so there's more update now with my housegirl situation. The in-laws of my housegirl did not allow for their probinsiyana daughter to come to Manila, mostly because it means her education will drag out longer than necessary. Completely understable, but still an inconvenient truth...
Anyway, another option has surfaced. What if we allow her to bring her son with her and stay with us from Monday to Friday (or sometimes Saturday morning)? Let's break that down into a list of pros and cons -
PROS
- She's very trustworthy; as in, I can trust her with money, jewelry, food, and basically everything and anything in my small household. And if you employ someone to be in your house by her lonesome all day long, you better have trust as the number 1 requirement.
- She's willing to be alone in the condo (or in this case, be with her son alone in the condo). Not a lot of maids are willing to do that, apparently, and I learned this yesterday from a coworker. I don't know why I didn't think of it before, but it is quite a challenge to be alone all day, everyday, save for a few minutes of interaction with me and Dennis at the start and end of each day. It takes a certain kind of personality to be able to thrive in a situation like that, and this lovely housegirl of mine is one such personality. She is content and quite used to being alone, with no one to talk to (at least no one of adult age). It's another value she brings to the table.
- She cooks really well. In Dennis' words, she's the best cook he's ever had.
- She can be relied on to do a good job with the cleaning and washing.
- She's been with my family for ages, and because of that, I can entrust her to be my eyes and ears, when later on when we have a baby and I have to employ a yaya I may not know personally (I have to be realistic), I can count on her to look out for my family's best interest and make sure the yaya toes the line. I don't know how else to explain it but she's very good for my peace of mind.
CONS
- The son will be in our care, and will be our responsibility. While I'm sure she won't allow any harm to fall onto her son, if the kid gets sick, he is our responsibility. One way to mitigate this con is immunization, and I plan to check on what the kid has gotten (and has not gotten) so far in terms of vaccine. If needed, I'll pay for the additional vaccines, if only to make sure he doesn't fall seriously ill when in our household.
- Her attention might be split, hence it may take her longer to do her work. For now, at least, this isn't a big issue, since she's free most of the time, given the small amount of work needed to maintain our 124 sqm condo. She's mostly done with her work by 1:30 or 2pm in the afternoon, and she can afford to watch tv or take a nap for an hour or two, before starting dinner prep at around 4:30.
- The son is 2 years old, and as my officemates call it, still at the terrible age of being loud, rambunctious and very capable of breaking things in the condo. While I doubt the high incidence of this, it's nothing that a bit of childproofing can't do. Also, my mother in law has had experience of help bringing in their children to live in their property. From her (and Dennis') observation, their kids are not like the kids of the owners of the house. Their kids tend to know their place and be more behaved. I don't have firsthand experience with this so I really wouldn't know. This is the one "con" that I really don't have a hard solution for, so I guess we can just figure this out as we go along. For instance, if you've seen my place, you can close the kitchen swing door and keep the kid on the other side of the condo - the kitchen/ maid's quarter's area, which is farthest from our room. Thereby minimizing the noise level...
So there. That pretty much sums up the situation. Dennis says, after considering everything, he's willing to offer a trial period and see how it pans out. Hopefully the situation ends up win-win for both parties. I can tell she doesn't want to quit her job as much as possible. I know the extra income comes in handy for her small family; plus, if we do allow her to bring her child along, it's the same income level for her, for less expense. We do want to keep her as much as possible too, given the list of pros above. So I hope this situation does work out and we don't regret it.
For now, at least, I think this is our best alternative. Keep your fingers crossed everything goes smoothly!
Anyway, another option has surfaced. What if we allow her to bring her son with her and stay with us from Monday to Friday (or sometimes Saturday morning)? Let's break that down into a list of pros and cons -
PROS
- She's very trustworthy; as in, I can trust her with money, jewelry, food, and basically everything and anything in my small household. And if you employ someone to be in your house by her lonesome all day long, you better have trust as the number 1 requirement.
- She's willing to be alone in the condo (or in this case, be with her son alone in the condo). Not a lot of maids are willing to do that, apparently, and I learned this yesterday from a coworker. I don't know why I didn't think of it before, but it is quite a challenge to be alone all day, everyday, save for a few minutes of interaction with me and Dennis at the start and end of each day. It takes a certain kind of personality to be able to thrive in a situation like that, and this lovely housegirl of mine is one such personality. She is content and quite used to being alone, with no one to talk to (at least no one of adult age). It's another value she brings to the table.
- She cooks really well. In Dennis' words, she's the best cook he's ever had.
- She can be relied on to do a good job with the cleaning and washing.
- She's been with my family for ages, and because of that, I can entrust her to be my eyes and ears, when later on when we have a baby and I have to employ a yaya I may not know personally (I have to be realistic), I can count on her to look out for my family's best interest and make sure the yaya toes the line. I don't know how else to explain it but she's very good for my peace of mind.
CONS
- The son will be in our care, and will be our responsibility. While I'm sure she won't allow any harm to fall onto her son, if the kid gets sick, he is our responsibility. One way to mitigate this con is immunization, and I plan to check on what the kid has gotten (and has not gotten) so far in terms of vaccine. If needed, I'll pay for the additional vaccines, if only to make sure he doesn't fall seriously ill when in our household.
- Her attention might be split, hence it may take her longer to do her work. For now, at least, this isn't a big issue, since she's free most of the time, given the small amount of work needed to maintain our 124 sqm condo. She's mostly done with her work by 1:30 or 2pm in the afternoon, and she can afford to watch tv or take a nap for an hour or two, before starting dinner prep at around 4:30.
- The son is 2 years old, and as my officemates call it, still at the terrible age of being loud, rambunctious and very capable of breaking things in the condo. While I doubt the high incidence of this, it's nothing that a bit of childproofing can't do. Also, my mother in law has had experience of help bringing in their children to live in their property. From her (and Dennis') observation, their kids are not like the kids of the owners of the house. Their kids tend to know their place and be more behaved. I don't have firsthand experience with this so I really wouldn't know. This is the one "con" that I really don't have a hard solution for, so I guess we can just figure this out as we go along. For instance, if you've seen my place, you can close the kitchen swing door and keep the kid on the other side of the condo - the kitchen/ maid's quarter's area, which is farthest from our room. Thereby minimizing the noise level...
So there. That pretty much sums up the situation. Dennis says, after considering everything, he's willing to offer a trial period and see how it pans out. Hopefully the situation ends up win-win for both parties. I can tell she doesn't want to quit her job as much as possible. I know the extra income comes in handy for her small family; plus, if we do allow her to bring her child along, it's the same income level for her, for less expense. We do want to keep her as much as possible too, given the list of pros above. So I hope this situation does work out and we don't regret it.
For now, at least, I think this is our best alternative. Keep your fingers crossed everything goes smoothly!
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
housegirl problem
On top of the emotional rollercoaster caused by my grandma's condition, I have another problem looming in the horizon. My housegirl, whom Dennis & I trust completely and can cook to Atty's tummy's content, is again faced with the possibility of terminating her employment. As I said in my November 2010 post about her, she and her husband are going home in April for their son's first birthday. She told me that they've decided they do not want their son growing up away from them and that they will bring him back to Manila when they come home from the province in that April trip. Now the question is, who will take care of their son when his mom is with us from Monday to Friday every week. The plausible solution lies in the husband's younger sister, who is a 19-year-old girl still in 3rd year high school. There's an OHP program by the Deped that offers weekend classes for working students, and there's a handful of public schools that offer this program. Aha! A ray of hope! The solution can be that this girl comes to Manila with them in April and looks after the little boy JM from Monday to Friday, then on weekends, she goes to school while my housegirl takes over her rightful duties as a mom.
It's not a perfect option, though. Firstly, it assumes that the husband's parents will allow their 19-year-old probinsiyana daughter to come to Manila. Another assumption is that the OHP program of the school will accept the student (apparently, there's a huge demand for this and you need to present strong justification why you should be given a slot). Another is that the arrangement needs to work out, meaning the girl adjusts well and is able to handle the mom's duties from Mon to Fri, including keeping house.
But at least it's an option. She was visibly torn as she told me about the situation. She clearly doesn't want to leave us, partly because she needs the job but mostly because she has come to care for me and Dennis a lot. Plus she really loves my family, so she doesn't want to let us down as much as possible. However, she really doesn't want to be away from her son much longer, which I also understand.
Hay. Dennis is trying his best to find out more about the program, so we can present a good case to the husband's parents when they go home in April. But even assuming best-laid plans, if one of the factors above falls through, we'll have to face a housegirl-less situation. And my personal stand on hiring househelp is that if I can't trust the person 100%, I'd rather not hire her at all. :s
Help?
It's not a perfect option, though. Firstly, it assumes that the husband's parents will allow their 19-year-old probinsiyana daughter to come to Manila. Another assumption is that the OHP program of the school will accept the student (apparently, there's a huge demand for this and you need to present strong justification why you should be given a slot). Another is that the arrangement needs to work out, meaning the girl adjusts well and is able to handle the mom's duties from Mon to Fri, including keeping house.
But at least it's an option. She was visibly torn as she told me about the situation. She clearly doesn't want to leave us, partly because she needs the job but mostly because she has come to care for me and Dennis a lot. Plus she really loves my family, so she doesn't want to let us down as much as possible. However, she really doesn't want to be away from her son much longer, which I also understand.
Hay. Dennis is trying his best to find out more about the program, so we can present a good case to the husband's parents when they go home in April. But even assuming best-laid plans, if one of the factors above falls through, we'll have to face a housegirl-less situation. And my personal stand on hiring househelp is that if I can't trust the person 100%, I'd rather not hire her at all. :s
Help?
Thursday, March 10, 2011
K&Co Love
Lately, I've been buying so many K&CO dresses - the jersey ones that are so light and soft to wear! I love them soooo much! And I was so happy to find some on sale last night - roughly P1000 to P1200 each! What a deal!
At the back of my mind, I also can't help but wonder if I'm doing this in preparation for the next stage in my life, where loose, comfy dresses would be a daily uniform rather than an occasional treat. Granted, I've been feeling so comfortable in dresses that jeans and slacks suddenly feel constricting. But I also wonder if this is my way of prepping myself for pregnancy. Everyone who knows me knows that I like to plan, and plan ahead at that, so maybe it's not such a far-fetched idea. :P
Just wanted to share that. This is an I LOVE K&CO post :)
At the back of my mind, I also can't help but wonder if I'm doing this in preparation for the next stage in my life, where loose, comfy dresses would be a daily uniform rather than an occasional treat. Granted, I've been feeling so comfortable in dresses that jeans and slacks suddenly feel constricting. But I also wonder if this is my way of prepping myself for pregnancy. Everyone who knows me knows that I like to plan, and plan ahead at that, so maybe it's not such a far-fetched idea. :P
Just wanted to share that. This is an I LOVE K&CO post :)
Monday, March 07, 2011
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