I would really advise you against stretching yourself too thin and being too accomodating... to everybody! I understand the need to belong, the need to be liked and the need to feel comfortable around a certain group of people, but sometimes you just gotta watch your own back.
I find that, for most people, if you allow them to step all over you and take advantage, they will. And, what I find really disturbing is how they would sugar-coat these underhanded tricks by using sweety words and pa-close moves. I really despise such people-- people who think they're so cool and so above-everyone-else that they're entitled to certain favors. And you letting them get away with it does nothing to arm you against their dirty tactics.
Also, I find that people pleasers tend to share too many stories about themselves, (I guess) in an effort to forge immediate bonds and ties with people around them. I would also caution you against that. Resist the urge to share every single detail of every fight, every situation and every secret you have to every person you feel the need to please. Because all that does is give these people (the trust-worthiness of whom are yet to be determined) more ammunition to get the better of you.
I can't believe it, but I've quite possibly found someone more naive than me. Please, I hope you listen to these pieces of advice and choose very well the friends you want to have. It's just one of those things in life where quality totally wins over quantity.
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