OK, so this afternoon, my husband and I were told by my mother-in-law that her sister-in-law (dami namang law in this sentence) commented about our plans of having a "dragon baby", i.e. a baby born in the year of the Dragon, which starts in late-Jan 2012. Apparently, since I was born in the year of the Dog, I am "chiong" (literally means contra) to a dragon-born. Hence, it would not be preferable for me to bear a dragon baby. Not that it's dangerous or anything, but in our culture, "chiong" means, at the minimum, the two sides zero-out or cancel-out each other. If one is having good luck, the other isn't, so net-net, the total of the equation is a zero. So, if you're "chiong" to the animal sign of 2011, you're generally told to be more careful, stay close to home and avoid long trips and basically look out because you're more vulnerable to weakness.
Another "hence" in the "comment" given today: We ought to procreate SOON so as to have a rabbit-born baby, instead of crossing over the mark next year and have a, gasp, dragon-baby, just as we originally planned.
Gosh! For one, good job, mother-in-law's sister-in-law! We didn't ask you, and seriously, did you just have to share your "comments"? For another, it's not that we were dead-set on a dragon baby, because we're not. But it's just disconcerting (as a POTENTIAL MOTHER-TO-BE) to hear that my baby will be "contra" with me, seeing as how I'm the child's mother and therefore he/she would only be alive in the world due to my participation in the matter. As I told Dennis this afternoon, "I'm the child's mother. I don't know how we can be "at odds" right away. At least give the child 12 years of existence before he/she can rebel against me during the teenage years!"
TSK TSK TSK!
Hay. This culture of ours can sometimes be so overbearing. So many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts", padded by "just a suggestion" or "it won't hurt if..." Hay.
Anyway, I'm glad I have a mature husband who just smiled and said we can compromise by bumping up our "we'll start trying" period from mid-year to after-Europe, which is late April. Then we just leave it up to the child (or fate) to choose when he/she wants to be born. Does he/she want to be a rabbit? Or a dragon? Either way is fine with mommy and daddy :) Sounds good, right? I felt better, after experiencing a few seconds of ickiness after receiving the suggestion. Sounds like a plan :)
Hay. This just goes to show - Unsolicited comments never ever work out.
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I know your posts are just a glimpse, but you and your hubby have a pretty rock solid relationship there :)
Oh, and I hope I don't scare you with this, but be prepared for more unsolicited advice once you're pregnant and when the baby finally comes out. But I'm sure your hubby will keep you sane then :)
Thanks for the kind words :) I did luck out with my patient and understanding husband :) And yes, I'm already readying myself for that. I guess unsolicited advice is a necessary evil in this world talaga :p
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